Dec 27, 2012

Receiving Compliments

I don't know what it is, but I don't know what to say when people notice that I've lost weight.  Particularly people who I haven't seen for a while.  I guess they can see a big difference.  I've lost about 13 kgs now.  I guess that is a lot, but I still have about 12 kg to go and I don't know I know there is a difference in my clothes, I've gone down two to three clothes sizes.  But I just get embarrassed and say "Oh thank you.  I still have a bit to go".

At the Christmas Eve party the other day, there was someone there who I hadn't seen since I first signed on for Round 3 of 12WBT this year (2012).  That was back in August.  The round hadn't started, but I had signed on.  We were having lunch at a coffee shop with a few friends and we were talking about it and I hadn't seen any menus or exercise plans at that stage, so I was feeling very motivated that I was going to lose this excess weight that I was carrying but I didn't know how the program would be, if I would like it, or even if it would be a success or something I could maintain long term.  I didn't know anyone else who had done the program, I only found it whilst searching google for something, I'm not sure what.  I actually wasn't looking at joining a 12 week program.

Anyway when I saw her on Monday night she yelled across the room.  "OMG, dieting diva" (although she used my real name, LOL).  "Look how much weight you've lost, there's nothing of you".  Well all night, she kept saying, "I can't believe how good you are looking, I just can't believe how much weight you've lost, I keep looking at you, your face is different".   This is lovely to hear, compliments.  But I don't know.  I find it hard to hear.  I sort of get embarrassed.  I just say "oh thanks, but I still have a lot more to go".  Many are saying "from where?".

I was at the office the other day and my dad has been away for a few months.  He had noticed I'd lost weight before he left.  But I was standing at the office the other day, the day after he arrived home and he kept saying "you have just lost so much weight", "you are looking so good", "skinny minnie".  I haven't told my dad that I'm doing any sort of weight loss program.  I don't know why, but he and my brother are very very fit, very healthy.  Yes they have their treats, chocolate, ice cream.  But neither of them have ever been over weight, ever!  They have never even been on the high scale of normal BMI, they have always been thin (not too thin), but more towards the bottom of the normal BMI for their height.  They would never say anything about being me overweight but I'm sure they don't understand (I could be wrong)

Anyway, my dad just kept going on and it was lovely, he was being nice but again I felt uncomfortable hearing those compliments.  I said I still have a bit to go and he said "doesn't look like it".  He said you must have been working really hard!  And I just said "oh no not really", when in reality I have!

Not sure how everyone else feels getting these compliments about how they are looking.  Am I the only one that gets sort of uncomfortable, embarrassed by the compliments?  Guess I should just enjoy it, LOL.


  1. i've honestly never heard a compliment about my weight, or weight loss, or body shape etc. but i think that when i am done with my weight loss, i will find it hard to accept compliments (if they happen) because it's out of the norm. i think hearing praise is hard for some of us who like to work hard but aren't used to shining a light on the work we do. i say let your light shine, and let other people bask in it :)

    ~ alicia

  2. I'm exactly the same. Was explaining to mum recently that I don't know what to say when people compliment me on losing weight. Mine is only 7kg loss so nor extremely noticeable. Anyway mum said just say 'thank you' so I have but it's so awkward. I wonder if it will get easier in time or anything.

  3. Sometime in my life i lost weight, about 34 kg. All this loss is just so new for me. I was always a fat baby girl growing to a fat woman (now). So, i felt so confused from all these compliments, but i tried so hard to handle it! Suddenly all eyes are up on me! Many relatives told me to stop loosing weight because i was looking good and all ask the same question: "more weight loss? from where?"
    Anyway ... compliments are very nice and welcome but don't let yourself to get away from your any goal and focus!


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